interesting stuff

check this out. i found it on the web amidst my surfing and i actually believe it has applicable value to it.

What to look for in a Wife

Step1Insist on intelligence. Dumb may be cute or funny at first, but she will eventually get on your nerves when you tire of explaining every little thing to her.

Step2Check out her mother. It is true—the daughter will one day become her mother. Make sure you can live with that.

Step3Pick a woman who matches your passion quotient. Share your expectations of how often you and she will have s*x.

Step4Evaluate her values. Match her morals, politics and financial status to yours as closely as possible.

Step5Mind her manners. Decide whether you are you looking for someone who knows which fork to use, or someone who would just as soon eat with her hands.



Tips & Warnings

* Ask her what she's reading. You'll ascertain whether she is literate or prefers reality shows or science fiction movies.

* Take her to the zoo. If she coos and cuddles up to the animals, you will know she will love your dog or cat. If she pays more attention to the children, watching them longingly, then your desire for children won't shock her.

* Go shopping with her. Frightening as that sounds, you'll be able to determine if she is a saver or a spender. You will also get a clue about her taste in clothing, jewelry and furnishings by noting which store windows she looks at.

* Cut a rug and take her dancing. A woman who moves sensually and confidently on the dance floor is probably sensual and confident in the bedroom. If she is uncomfortable and stiff in that or other social situations, you may want to take a pass.

* Make a pass at her. Notice whether she responds with grace and humor or whether she embarrasses you and gives you a hateful glare. That should give you a clue to her personality.

* Chow down. Take her to dinner at a posh establishment and observe her eating habits. Then take her to a truck stop, local diner or pub. Observe whether she is equally as comfortable. The local bar is also a good place to find out if "everybody knows her name." You may not want to marry such a "popular" gal.



While a lot of that may not apply to me, there definitely is good info in there. two thumbs up blake. grin

What a day...and more thoughts

man i don't even know where to start. today was a bum day with not a lot of productivity. the early morning was dreary and overcast, then turned to rain and heavy thunder around mid-morning and rained all day until the afternoon when it finally stopped. now everything is muddy and messy, vehicles are dirty, puddles here and there and it's even a bit chilly out.



in order to get to my real reason for posting, i'll cut right to the chase. for those of you who know me well enough to be reading this blog, you already know that i'm trying to change (with the help of a Greater Being than myself) and you may even know a few of the things i've went through or are going through. combine that with the my last post and you start to get a picture of where i'm going with this. it can be described with three short words: frustrated, lonely and wondering. here's the breakdown:

frustrated- because i don't understand the reason things are going like they are with the staff and their delays, with my relations with 'M', with my job (as in, why people are uncooperative and hard to work with at times)



lonely- because i went from having a dear girlfriend to talk to five times a day to telling her that she may not be The One (hey wait. that should have went under 'frustrated') and eternally breaking up with her.. lonely because i feel like i did at sixteen (single, looking) but now i'm seven years older. lonely, because now the future doesn't look too bright (can anyone explain that one to me??)



wondering- wow, what in life ever stays the same?? it seems daily things are changing, things i don't understand. when will the economy turn around? what will our new President be like? what does God really have in store for me? (and this next one is a big one-der) how is it possible that i went from a life of ease and contentment to giving up all the lusts of the flesh and the pride of my eyes, to facing emotional anguish, temptations that threaten my mind and would like to divert my soul, feelings i don't understand...how can this be?? and yet, deep down in my heart i know the answer. i understand the behind-the-scenes workings that occur, how the devil is always bargaining for our souls, how he cannot read our thoughts but can ever so craftily insert just the right (evil) thoughts at just the right time, whether it's hate, envy, jealousy, lust or any other unnamed evil he can think of. wondering... why life seems so difficult, but then i think of how "all things work together for good" and it gives me rest. momentarily. until i begin to wonder again.







enough on all that. most of those thoughts were sent from my subconscious mind to the very forefront of my functioning, conscious mind by a simple act on behalf of another human, particularly a female. as i think of it i still can't believe what went on....dunno why it left me in such shock. i guess when a girl asks a guy out, particularly when he's not expecting it, it just catches him off-guard. now for the real story: i had stopped past the local drug store to speak with the John, the pharmacist, about some work we had recently performed for him. i usually speak to him out in the open, in front of his coworkers/employees and it's never a dull conversation. we have often discussed my culture and beliefs as i answer his (or anyone's) stream of never-ending, sometimes humorous and comical, questions about M-nites. i say all of this because we have openly discussed my status and i have told them that even though i'm x i don't party, that i work a lot, don't watch tv or listen to the radio. now i might also add that in this drugstore there's one particularly striking blonde that works there, that's single, available (or so John always tells me) and is his neice, whom he thinks i should hook up with. one day while i was at his house, i finally told him that i really didn't need any help, that i was proficient at picking up gals on my own and that i was just plain tired of hearing all about women. after all, i have a job that demands quite a bit of me and women (or more hopefully, Woman ( 'M' maybe?? :) ) will be there when the time is right and not a minute sooner. evidently that blew over him like an ocean breeze because it didn't change his demeanor any lol..



when i ended my conversation with John, i told i'd see him later and proceeded to walk out the door. halfway to my truck i hear someone calling my name and i turn around to see who it is and whaddya know... it's that blonde half running, half walking with hair flying coming my way. as she comes up to me she says,

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"hey blake, i have a proposition for you . every year here we have a christmas supper and we usually go out to eat someplace nice. i was wondering if you would like to go with me to the supper, since John always bugs me so bad about who i bring along. it would be a group of people- all of us that work here. just don't tell John because i don't want him to know."



and as i stood there in a nano-second of silence with my mind spinning, wondering what to say, it was almost as if i was in a daze with what i replied...



"i'd love to say yes, but... i don't think i can."



"o that's ok. i just thought..."



"i know. i'm sorry. i'd love to but i can't. where uh.. where do you guys normally go?" (what a blasted thing for me to say)



"we usually go to coleman's..this year it may be bonefish though."



"ok. let me think about it. if i change my mind i'll let you know..otherwise, like i said, probably not."



i could see what appeared to me to be a bit of a crestfallen look in her eyes as she backed towards the building..



"ok. well just don't tell john because i don't want him to know." and with that i walked back towards my truck as she headed inside.



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the rest of the afternoon was spent with a million things going through my head as i contemplated the possibilities, the maybes, the what-ifs. i honestly believe that was the worst temptation i've been through in a long time. pretty girls with white teeth and captive eyes are what pull my flesh into that toilet-bowl, hurricane-like spiral that only leads down. emotions. feelings. questions. why?? i just don't understand it. and yet i still believe that one day, if our Heavenly Father sees fit, that i will be awarded a bride who is more beautiful in every way than any other female i've ever known and will be just the help-meet that is needed to help guide me through those Pearly Gates.



in times of trial such as that i faced today, i can only humble myself and cry out to God hoping He will hear my feeble cry and boost my strength to pull through. so far, He has always been faithful and i know He always will be; i have no doubt about that.



it's time for me to go. maybe tomorrow will yield more new thoughts and more new things to think about. with my short prayer for strength, i close...



Dear Lord, you know i've committed it all to you. Without You i am powerless, weak in my own strength. Help me through, boost my courage, give me Your strength. in Jesus name, Amen.

90 days later...

wow it's been almost 90 days since i posted. unbelievable. and i have to say that this blog will be getting wwwaaaaaaayyyy off track from work today because buddy, i've got both guns blazin'. :)

i often think of great things to post but my j*o*b (for lack of anything else to blame) doesn't permit me the time i would like... for example, its 12:47 on a tuesday and i'm posting to my blog. red flags anyone..?

lately i've been thinking about a lot of interesting things such as female influence, dreams and all other sorts of great stuff, all at the same time. this is in addition to the things i focus on at work, of course, but nonetheless i will venture far enough to say that it makes for interesting reading, in my opinion.

several topics come to mind at the moment but the most dominant one is female influence on a largely male culture as it pertains to work, accomplishments, a drive fueled by testosterone, savage attacks against one male to another and all other sorts of things that men are known for, etc.etc. do NOT get me wrong! i am not saying that women have accomplished nothing, are worth nothing, should sit at home and do nothing... no, no, no >>>>

haha someone just stepped in my office and said, "yeah you still look the same."

"what??"

"well you said to come see you after lunch.. and you still look the same." lol what a sense of humor.>

>>> heaven forbid. i'm not saying any of that. at all. But what i am saying is that (highly) successful men, and probably even just ordinary men, have all been subjected to female influence to some degree or another and that's what motivated them to the position they acquired or are striving to acquire.

men will go out and fight wars, dream big, risk their lives, be willing to be ridiculed by all simply because of the lady who holds their heart, who inspires them, believes in them and simply tells them, " I Love You." This has been proven down through the ages and is still going on today. when a man is seeking to win a woman's affection, he will go to many great lengths to prove his love. Or at least look for the smallest and simplest oppurtunities in which to make even a tiny, favorable impression. Things that look ridiculous to a third party are of no question to the man seeking to impress; driving for hours just to turn right around and go back where he came from, spending large sums of money for things which have little lasting value, subjecting themselves to tireless labors, ever working, thinking, wondering how he can make that beautiful lady see that he is the one, The Man.

i personally find this all intriguing. not because men are so "stupid", but because i am describing myself to a 'T'... no, i haven't went all out to impress a woman but give me half a chance (big grin). If i was given the chance i think i probably would be a "fool for love" as they say... but i don't know that to be factually correct. I sometimes think of all the nice ways to impress someone but since i have no one to practice on so, my thoughts are only ever thoughts, not actions.

on the other hand....

if female influence is so strong, have you ever wondered about the situations where the male in the relationship was oppressed, held down, mentally strangled etc. etc.? or maybe the female was so domineering and selfish that she left the male completely unattended, not caring whether he bloomed and blossomed or budded and died?

while this is in a complete opposite, my mind is drawn to the story of johnny lingo and his eight-cow bride, sarita. in this story, sarita was held to the highest position in johnny's mind even though she wasn't a beauty queen when he married her. in fact, she was anything but. however, johnny saw something in sarita that he knew he could make shine. and he did; to the point that people could hardly believe she was the same person.
in the story, johnny helped sarita realize her true potential. but the point i want to make is this: do women truly understand the power they posess when it comes to being that true 'helpmeet' or helper that God has crowned them to be? do they realize the influence they exert over the strong, masculine,naturally domineering man that is their husband? do they know they can draw him in like a snake does a flying bird? or that they can cause him to be ten thousand miles away and yet be sitting in the same room? these are my musings as i often wonder not so much about women that are already married but more so for those women who are not. do they know? has anyone told them? or should they not realize these things until after they are married? obviously certain single females know these things becasue otherwise therre would be no callgirl services or bars or all the other places that single women pick up on men of all sorts. no, my message is not to those type of people but rather for those who are sincere and earnest about God and Life...in earnest to know the Master's will.

it hurts for me to be single and watch other men mistreat their wives or even abandon/divorce/leave them altogether. no, i'm not eyeing divorcees or other men's wives, i'm just saying that these men have cast away to the rubbish heap a woman who could be a lady if she were shown the proper love, respect and attention. i can only assume that the Devil is so successful in his game that these men I'm talking about will never see their folly. truly, these situations need our prayers...

i would like to mention several things before i close, though, and this is in regard to those women who have shown me special attention, hoping i would reciprocate the feelings (which are, by the way, human emotions, not true impressions from Above.) the message is a simple one and it goes like this:
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yes, you were beautiful in many ways. you had the perfect tan, with a well-toned, proportionate figure and you carried yourself in such a way that men couldn't help but notice. No, you weren't provocative, at least not intentionally; but it was your mission to turn heads and for this i don't fault you. I just fault the way you went about doing it.
i know you wished i would ask you out and i would've loved to, but that would be living a lie. i would break your heart while slowly destroying my conscious (which you may know nothing about) as well as grieving my Saviour (something else you may not know much about.) yes, i know you go to church on Sunday but that really means nothing to me; it's what you do every other day of the week that is a real reflection of who you are. and since i'm a self-perceived realist, i was looking for the "real" in you.
i didn't ask you out because i didn't like you. the fleshly part of my nature had already envisioned you walking beside me, or rather, parading beside me for the onlookers to stare; and how they would swoon and talk after we were out of earshot. their silent glances would reassure us both that we were privileged to be with the other.
but when i sat back and thought about the next 60 years, i had to ask myself some hard questions. and since i asked the questions to myself, i had to answer them. Or i could've just stuck my head in the sand and let them go unanswered, but then i would've been back to square one and i really prefer progress over being stalled doing nothing. the answers that i gave myself to the questions i asked, made me realize that for however nice you were, you were not the one for me. actually, i believe my questions were answered with the the help of a Higher Power who knows way more than i ever will...
this whole process was done in under a minute, while the whole time you were standing there talking and laughing, showing all who would notice your pretty smile with perfect teeth. but i know deep inside me that it was all a facade, fake. just like all the make-up you were wearing. the 'real' you would sign divorce papers faster than i can say "what's this??" when i'm being served by the marshall.
i honestly believe that you probably would love me...for a time. but i want more than a little of your time. call me greedy or selfish but i want it all. i plan to give my entire being, my complete life to the one i love and will accept nothing less in return. and quite frankly, i just don't see that in you. so yes, it was nice meeting you and have a great day but you won't be hearing from me any time soon. after all, i think you already knew that.

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to understand more about how i feel on this whole issue, read this lady's post; it is my deepest desire to be like her husband, Copper. read closely how she writes about him; it's intriguing.

i could keep on for a while but i think i've said my piece for the day. to all the God-fearing, Christian ladies out there that love their husbands, may God richly bless you as i'm sure He already has. to those of you who are skeptical, i say just give it a try.

i'm leaving now, but i'll be back. in less than 90 days. :)